He was so good for her they said. She should be lucky to have him. He was successful in his career , he was caring , he claimed to love her very much , he constantly kept complimenting her. Constantly. He was her caste. He was a true gentleman. He always said the right things. But beneath that seemingly perfect man was an actual asshole waiting to burst out. He however never showed it. But she could feel it in her bones. The way he said things which she wanted to hear. The way his lips curled down sometimes when he was getting bothered but chose not to show. The way he made every decisions hers and basked in the radiance of his magnanimity. The way he loved playing victim. Constantly making her the villain with his actions and not words. The signs were so subtle sometimes she thought she was imagining them. No one would believe her even if she told. Her own mom was smitten by him. But she knew.
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Indeed, there are many ways of being controlling. Yet I feel as if this story is incomplete; I look for something that happened to validate her suspicions. Perhaps that's my failure to fully understand.
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DeleteI guess my point is that sometimes even without validation you know you are right. That sigh of relief my body gave when i cut contacts with him seemed proof enough.
I can see the subtle signs she recognized, and would like to know what happened, if there was a defining moment, or an ending.
ReplyDeleteYes, we would hate to believe that this is an ongoing saga, one with no end in sight.
DeleteSo things came to an end few months back. She never confronted him with her suspicions. She just never could commit to a man fully when he kept hailing her as hero and then painting her as villain and simply refusing to take any responsibility in the relationship.
DeleteHe sounds like a dark character, dubious and one who has a few skeletons in his closet. *shudder*
ReplyDeleteThis sounds like the worst kind of abuse... how can you ever explain when everything just seem perfect.
ReplyDeleteExactly! You will be called crazy for feeling unsafe with the seemingly perfect man. But you always know.
DeletePerhaps her mother has been wooing him and he is getting interested?
ReplyDeleteLol that is a dark twist.
DeleteHe sounds dangerous and infuriating. One can hope his assholeness never comes out to play. But, I suspect, she knows better.
ReplyDeleteShe escaped
DeleteSuch an unfortunate trap some endure helplessly. Your story is compelling, and leaves us hoping for an epiphany of some sort that frees her.
ReplyDeleteI think she finally freed herself
DeleteWhat an interesting read. What a difficult situation. How can she ever explain to someone that he isn't what he seems to be. I hope she gets rid of him soon before he shows his real face
ReplyDeleteI think she has gotten rid of him
Deleteunderneath a perfect situation is always the presence of flawedness. this was a great read. thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteThanks for commenting!
DeleteHmmm, re-reading I see that it's really very subtle indeed – she is being forced and manipulated into the role of the nasty one, but if she attempts to bring it out into the open, it only seems to prove the point.
ReplyDeleteExactly. Then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Best way was to get rid of him playing his own game. Exit for innocent reasons
DeleteSubtle gaslighting.. she should follow her heart and what she knows
ReplyDeleteYes! Thank you :)
DeleteGaslighting, a weapon in an abusive person's arsenal.
ReplyDeleteI would call it the invisible nuclear bomb
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